why are we so hard on women???

Frinemy... Do they exist and if they do.. why do we let them live in our lives??

Being a military wife, you come across a lot of women. Im a big believer that people come into our lives for some reason good or bad.. to teach us how to treat others and how not to treat them.. to be life long friends or to just be a big pain in the ass. I have some amazing friends in my life from childhood, to skating teams to lovable non-catty military wives..
I have known plenty of women who became friends with women to keep them close..thinking they were shaddy, wether it is because you dont want your man messed with (whole nother blog later) or your volunteer postion not taken..(ok Oki ladies you know who i mean there..) any who I just dont get it..why do we let these negative people in our lives??? I completly understand I am a tell you how it is kind of gal.. I cuss like a sailor.. I say what I say...my good friends say I have no filter.. I throw my friends under the bus.. but to be my friend you have to give it as good as I do and beable to take it and give it back.. (Crystal...there are no hoods in my closet). In the end Im not gonna be your friend just to save face.. I clean my facebook out every so often.. If I had not talked to you in 6 months then off you go.. Im not gonna accept random people there..Cause ladies we all want to see if the pretty girl in high school is a fat ass now.. I guess what Im trying to say is we are out of high school lets leave the shitty behavior there.. we all are strong women, mommies and kick ass women who don't need negativity in our lives..

Friends or Foe...

Honestly Not sure where todays Rant gonna go... so bare with me or bear with me..Honeslty which one is it!?!? I asked a friend and they like me were clueless..Anywho off subject.. Back to friends or foe dun dun dun....

Living in a military house with a military husband, you realize that you need to rely on NON-family members...Yes Friends..for alot of us we say oh no we cant ask anyone for help..Im so pulling the bull shit card..you either A) are fricken A super women.. or B) your a class a hermit.. no no seriously maybe you have not found that person you are completly comfy with..and Im sorry..no go put your big girl panties on and go make a good friend..

Where the Hell is this going Carie you ask...UMMM or EH as my new wonderful friend says Im not fricken sure yet just go with it..

So 8 years ago we left Maryland/Delaware or ie...family... For both Kevin and I we are not very close with our families.. Kev grew up in a military house that moved way to much..and they are not normal... He has a sweet brother and I have a wonderful sister-in-law and 2 cute kids out of that deal.. and one amazing cousin family who we miss daily Paul and Heather...they are probley the only family both sides included that we could live next to and never argue..(ok maybe argue a little but we would get over it..) And well my family lots and lots of skeltons there..and lots and lots of skeltons that people like to deny.. dont get me wrong I love them (AUNT KIM and UNCLE DAVID reading this..I love you 2 to pieces) and they have made me this strong willed pain in the ass I am now.. So for that THANK YOU.. ok once again off topic.. what was that again..

FRIENDS Carie FRIENDS...sheesh all the voices in my head tend to take over at times..

OK so I grew up in and out of different schools..on and off the ice..lots of girls..ugh girls..I have always gotten along with boys better..(its the boobs) no no I cant take catty drama..I speak my mind and have no filter..so sometimes I dont get along with lots of girls.. YOu either love me or hate me..and I am ok with that..and I think I have always been like that.. I had a few great friends growing up..and some who i thought were wonderful and well..they turned out to not be so great..

Everything changed friends wise for me...we moved to Okinawa..I meet quite a few women who were catty catty..and I meant some amazing ladies who I will treasure til the day I die..or till the day they take me out to the pasture and shoot me..YES I dont want to die ugly so they have promised to take me out and do the job..gotta love friends like that right..

SO my OMAGE to the girlies in my life...(im going in order ladies so dont wet ur panities..)

Shelly...an amazing gal who helped me get my drink on when needed!!!

Jenn Lynn Glynn (say it fast it is fun to say) this is one amazing women..when i grow up i want to be a mommy like her, super sweet and just a good soul..

Crystal..AKA the hired help.. the BFF that will throw you under the bus..then pick you up and dust ya off...lets just say...I admitted to a very nice black couple not to worry I have no hoods in my closet..yes I said that lol..BUT it is all Crystals fault and well a few too many beers..

Lindsay.. the one when you need a pep talk go to her..cause sadly she has had shitter lucky in realtionships.. she is the one to talk too when your husband has pissed you off..cause hell she has had it worst..so you can be like damn my husband is not that bad..lol  LOVE YOU LINDS..MY FRIEND WITH GREAT BOOBIES...

Amy.. oh what to say about Amy you can confine anything and everything to her and she wont tell a soul..the funny thing is i meet Amy not long after we got to Oki..but it never worked out till the end..and  I hate that..But I will be sitting at her wedding in just a bit..

then there is Joyce.. what to say about Joyce.. she is the  big sister a girl should have.. she just jumps in she can read me she knows when i need her and i dont have to ask..she can give me shit..tell me to go jump off a bridge and then call me back and be fine.. and she has an amazing husband that can be called on when need too..like when a certain person slips chips her tooth and needs her husband home..lol shhhhh who is that person..damn beer..

So in the end..sometimes friends are your true family...

But Im gonna leave this with do we keep our friends close and are enemy's closer...til I continue with this rant..

yes Carie went there..

Lets just get the oh shit she went there thoughts out of the way...

For you all that know me...really really know me... Know I come from a highly realgious family, NOT the Living in, a cult kind or lets drink the kool-aid either..Just a god is great you should come to church with me kind.. and well as you all know or should know this is FAR from me... Not that church is bad, for some it is great but it is not for all.. And I wish people..NOT just my family but people would think before the say hey come try my church..This makes me extremly uncomfortable!!! Just cause I dont go to church or Im not raising my kids in church does not make me a bad person.. Do I beleive in god... ummmm honestly I dont know..does that make me an awful person??? No, I dont want to be saved...

I have the kid that followed his father into a Catholic Service saw Kevin dip is fingers into the Holy Water..so he did the same and stuck his fingers in his mouth and proceed to tell us it tasted like bubble gum... YEAH i dont think we are saveable..lol

I have also learned the first people who want you to come to church only go to church to meet people..yes if there is a god he wants you to come and meet people so you sell your home business shit too.. (a whole other blog topic on another day) So I want to close with DONT ASK ME TO GO TO YOUR CHURCH...I DONT WANT TO GO..I DONT WANT TO BE SAVED..I WILL CONTINUE TO LOVE MY CHILDREN JUST AS MUCH AS THE CHURCH GO'ER... and I will always cuss like a sailor..DEAL with it or get over it.. I guess all in all just wish people would realize that to somepeople church is like money and politics chatter sometimes best to avoid it at all cost cause all it does is make a person umcomfortable..

The Traveling Howell's

It is about time that I start a blog...

So lets Keep Up,and Catch Up with those Wacky Howells Shall We.....

We have been in Northern Germany for almost 3 months now, and all I can say is Misery loves Company.. 

 Kev is not doing his original job or even the job he was told he was gonna do.. and no stinkin fancy job title can make it better.. I will say I am enjoying him being home by 4 everyday.. After all the shift work hours it is nice to have him to rely on..

Vivyan and Oye are going to school in the Netherlands at the International School.. its pretty good they like it and have fit in just fine..

Liam is going to school on the NATO Base where Kev works and tells me daily he does not want to do Kindergarten again... Yes we kept him back, he is a busy busy boy.. and very young to go to first grade..

Everett is home with me everyday still and a very sweet boy, would love him in school but nothing so far works time wise for us..

I am in the car entirely way too much 90 mins in the morning and 2 hours in the afternoon..NOT FUN even in a Volvo.. I am back on the ice working with "the smokeaters..the most kick ass team of the south"..yes I know how Fuc* amazing is that for me to find them with a motto like that..it was fate..

So my hope for this blog is to give friends family..My daily ups and downs of a mother of 4, a military wife living overseas..and a bit of my wit..

Cheers..